(Continued from Tape 1, Side B. Interview was done on July 17, 1989.)
Skilken: And they brought him, he died in Cincinnati, two weeks after he got
the heart attack. His former wife, if I’m not mistaken, is in Heritage House
Interviewer: Mrs. Ruben?
Skilken: Yeah. Don’t we have a Ruben there in Heritage House?
Interviewer: Well there’s more than one I think.
Skilken: Yeah. So these camps – we were completely outfitted. We had a tent,
we had gasoline cook stove, 2 burner, and we had, we had built the trunk on the
back end and a box along the one side of this Model T Ford. At that time it had
running boards, you see? And all of our clothes and everything was stored in
there. And we’d pull into one of these camps and we’d pitch our tents and
here are some boxing gloves thrown over a roof, and within a couple of hours, we
were the center of that whole camp – 10, 12, 15 people, tents, some of them were
larger, some were smaller and . . . .
Interviewer: What year was that in?
Skilken: 1919. And so we would work a while, ’til we’d run out of money,
and then we would travel. We would wait, ’til we got some money together to
stay there, bid on a job. And I was a cocky kid. And I’d pull onto a bridge
job where they were laying brick. At that time, they were paying bricklayers
$l.10 to $1.25 an hour, depending on what part of the country you was in. (And I’ll
take one of those too. I didn’t realize I can’t talk and eat but that’s
okay.) And I would say to the foreman on the job, “Don’t need anybody,
kid.” All your tools were in a cement sack. At that time, they used to pack
cement in cloth bags. You would have your tools in a cloth bag and your…
roll. “Don’t need anybody,” I says. “I’ll tell you what.
There’s three of us traveling and I’m on the bum around the country. Just
had enough to eat for breakfast. We don’t have enough money to buy
dinner.” At that time, it was breakfast, dinner and supper. No such a thing
as lunch, you know? If you remember. And I’d say, “You put me on it and
if I don’t lay as many or more bricks than the best man you got on this job in
here, you don’t owe me a damn dime except a couple of bucks to buy something
for supper, for dinner and supper.” Never lost a job.
That’s how I got into the general contracting business. First starting as a little brick
contractor. At that time there was Joe and Harry. They were paying 30 and 35
cents an hour for labor. Whatever job they could get, that’s what they were
making and I was making $l.10 and $1.25 an hour as a bricklayer. So we’d work
for two or three weeks and have enough money, we’d go on. I forget what state
it was in but we were bordering, and this was a big camp. We were bordering the
desert and we were heading for California. And I had a good job and I wanted, we
wanted, and both of the boys had jobs, and we wanted to get enough money put
together so we could get to California and have enough money to get into a
decent camp in California. At that time, they had in L.A., why they had (Fix me
a plate too, will you please, Eleanor?)…
They had enough, they really had
some beautiful tents. They had shower stalls, stuff like that. We had a half a
dozen couples, two of those couples waiting for three weeks, they wanted to go
across the desert with the boys. Well we come off of a mud road and here we find
a beautiful road, five miles wide, it’s the whole desert. Pick any dent in the
road you want, you see? I mean there was five couple waited for us.
Interviewer: Was this in California or New Mexico or where?
Skilken: Probably New Mexico or Arizona or some place.
Interviewer: When did you get married? What year did you get married?
Skilken: 1926. Got married in ’26. January 2nd of 1926. We were 24 years
Interviewer: What was your wife’s maiden name?
Skilken: Maiden name was Fannie Horkin. My father-in-law was a manufacturer in
the stogie business. He manufactured stogies, not cigars. If you remember…
Interviewer: Was that Dr. Horkin in that family?
Skilken: My brother-in-law was the first Jewish dentist in the city of
Interviewer: That’s what he was…
Interviewer: You’re right.
Skilken: And had a terrific practice.
Interviewer: You didn’t go for the horses like Joe did, huh?
Skilken: No, no. That’s another story. Well anyway, we ran into Max
Rosenberg. Max Rosenberg, the Rosenberg family lived here in Columbus. Max’s
older sister was married to Lou Lakin. She was a beautiful woman.
Interviewer: Who was the older sister married to? Lou Lakin? The tailor?
Skilken: The tailor, yeah.
Interviewer: He was married to a Cabakoff?
Skilken: No, no.
Voice: He married Mollie Rosenberg.
Interviewer: Well how is the relationships of Bella Wexner?
Voice: He was related to Bella but I can’t tell you how.
Voice: No she was, his wife was related to Bella.
Voice: No Rosenbergs weren’t related to anybody here.
Voice: Then who was the one in the Lakin family that was related to Wexner?
Voice: Maybe it was on the Lakin side.
Voice: Oh no question about it.
Voice: Listen, every time I see Bella Wexner, she wants to know what Sandy
and I used to do in school ’cause her was her cousin. Now if that…
Voice: Louis Lakin. It’s my wife’s family. Louis Lakin was part of that
family. My wife…
Voice: …Sandy Lakin was the first person in Columbus to lose his life
in World War II.
Interviewer: He was married to Ilonka.
Voice: Well I’m going back to the other generation. Louie Lakin was married
to Mary and they had two daughters, Harriet was one…
Voice: Uhhhhhhhh, Louie Lakin had one daughter.
Voice: And one son.
Voice: Two sons. The first one was Sanford and Norman…
Voice: He was President of B’nai B’rith the same time I was President of
the Women’s Chapter and he went overseas…
Voice: And he was the first Jewish boy that was killed. No, no, no. He was
Voice: He was drowned.
Voice: He was drowned. The ship went down just like that.
Voice: He was married to Helen Ilonka.
Voice: That’s a different Lakin.
Voice: No, no, no, no. The Lakin that you knew was a real little short
fellow. He had a shop on State Street.
Voice: That’s right.
Voice: He had a shop on State Street but was not related to these Lakins at
Voice: Sylvia, Sanford Lakin had a sister Bernice who married somebody in
Norfolk, Virginia, and he had a brother Norman who married the Yuster girl.
Remember Yuster, Yuster? They built the building at Fourth and Broad, originally
Voice: Well that was who was Norman Lakin’s wife.
Voice: Where is Norman now?
Voice: He’s in Florida.
Skilken: He sold his jewelry store to Mansfield, see?
Skilken: He and his wife traveled all over the world on one of these passenger
freighters. You know you see a lot of freighters and right in the middle of it,
they’ll take anywhere from 20 to 35 or 36 passengers, you see? And he and his
wife were gone for five months Then he come back to Mansfield and he got sick
and tired of loafing around and he bought out a muffler place, what do you call
Voice: Muffler King?
Skilken: No, no, the other one.
Skilken: Midas Muffler. And it was down, way, way down on the east side in a
lousy place. And I built a place for him at my shopping center up there, West
Park Shopping Center.
Voice: That was later, Morris.
Voice: That was later, Morris.
Skilken: Yeah. That was later.
Voice: That was after World War II.
Skilken: And then he decided, by this time he was getting up there, where he
decided definitely he’s going to retire now.
Voice: See now everything’s quieted down, I’ll tell you about Simon…
He went to Bexley High School and they lived on Oakwood Avenue. ‘Cause his
father paid tuition so he would be with me, Morrey Mattlin and the rest of us.
We all went…together…Sanford Lakin…His father paid
tuition so he could go to Bexley High School. And he preceded me as President of
B’nai B’rith by a term or two. Is that right Sylvia? And his ship was
torpedoed and that’s how he lost his life. And if you remember…
Skilken: Went down in two minute’s time.
Voice: We established a memorial in his memory. The Sandord Lakin award and
it became at that time a very prestigous award…
Voice: And he married Ilonka. And I’ll tell you something that’s very
humorous. Every time, you know she was famous for her cooking. Very famous.
Voice: And then he lived with her on Oakwood Avenue in his father’s house.
Skilken: Took care of Louis for years.
Voice: That’s right. And let me tell you…
Voice: every time they called up and invited us over for dinner, my wife and
I dropped everything we were doing to go over there and have dinner at the house
because of her cooking. We ate there a lot.
Tarshish:: Well Allen, if you remember, he was active in B’nai B’rith at
that time and so was Sammy. He invited the whole group over to his house.
Voice: He used to do that.
Tarshish:: And Allen came home and he was raving about the food.
Skilken: He grew a mustache, he wore a mustache.
Voice: He was so proud of her cooking, you know.
Skilken: This is interesting. Everyone ought to listen to this, talking about
Sanford Lakin. Everybody said he looked exactly like me.
Voice: He was so handsome.
Voice: He was a good-looking guy.
Voice: Everybody liked him. He had personality.
Skilken: He went out on the, he would go out on the market. At that time, by
this time, there was nothing on the east side market, just around the old market
house, you see. And every time he went there, he would stop at one stand and the
fella’ who run the stand used to call him “Moisha.” He said,
“But my name is Sanford Lakin.” “You’re telling me your name?
You worked for me as a kid. You’re Moishe Skilken.” (laughter and
conversation) Now he had, he worked for an attorney and this attorney was
training him to be the tax attorney in his firm. And offices either at 8 or 16
East Broad Street. My office was at 44 East Broad Street.
Interviewer: What year were you at 44 over Brown Drug Store was it? What was
the name of the drug store? I know it was a drug store.
Skilken: Barnes, Old Man Barnes.
Interviewer: Well I’ll tell you Sanford and Liz would have had a brilliant
career in this.
Skilken: This attorney absolutely loved that boy.
Interviewer: And so did his clients.
Skilken: Yeah. And he was training him, like I say, to be at that time he was
assisting, beginning…(mixed voices) a tax attorney. Taxes were becoming
…part of the business. He and his partner come over to see me and we were
sitting there talking at my office. And all of a sudden this one attorney, and I’ll
tell you his name if you can remember. His brother had a men’s store on Rich
and High, on the southwest corner of Rich and High. Anyway…
Interviewer: Well the client was the guy that established White Castle
hamburgers, Ingram. That’s who Sanford was doing all this work for…
Skilken: All of a sudden this attorney begins to cry. I mean actually cry. And
I said to him, “I evidently remind you of Sanford.” He said,
“Yes, please excuse me for crying.” He was just that crazy about
Interviewer: What was the arrorney’s name?
Skilken: I can’t think of it. It was an Irish name.
Interviewer: They were just getting the White Castle going, you know in those
years. And he found a lot of loop-holes for this Ingram. And that’s the family
that eventually, you know…
Voice: When I got there and Sanford had died, I sat there and I cried and I
cried and I cried.
Interviewer: He was the only one we memorialized…That was Sanford
Lakin Memorial Award. That shows the impact he had on us.
Voice: I think at that time Ilonka had a store at Wilson and Oak.
Interviewer: Sylvia, she was in charge of the dining room at the Neil House.
And he said he was so crazy about that food that he wasn’t going to let her
Interviewer: She ran, they had a restaurant for a while in that apartment
house on Broad Street. What do they call it?
Voice: We got to hear when he started with the community…involvement.
Skilken: At the old Schonthal Center. We used to have dances there. JFL club
had dances there on the third floor…got started because I had worked
with Boy Scouts for years.
Voice: Yes, I remember he was a Boy Scout leader.
Skilken: And then when my real involvement got with a, we called them Boy
Scout group at Schonthal Center. And what’s his first name, Goldsmith?
Skilken: He came to me and he said, “Morris, you always used to be active
in Boy Scouts. Why don’t you become, I got a Scout Master, Jewish fellow, but
he needs somebody to tell him what to do and show him how to do it.” And, what do
you call them…I’m talking about the Scouting movement. We had 132
troops in this area and I was introduced and I would become one of the so-called
leaders in the Scouting. I took this, and what was his name, I’ll tell you I
can’t think of the Scout Master’s name. Here we go again. Jewish fellow. I’ll
tell you what. His two sons were given scholarships at the Academy.
Skilken: They had money enough, huh?
Voice: Munster. It wasn’t Munster?
Skilken: No. Anyway, within two years’ time they came to me and wanted me to
open up another Scout Troop. We had some Gentile boys from around the
neighborhood at Schonthal Center. It was really turning bad. And we had a couple
of tough kids in there. Well, I’d take those kids out in a hurry and within
two years’ time we had a full troop of 32. So they came to me and asked me to
open up another troop, start another troop. And I taught them real scouting.
Didn’t make any difference what the weather was. Could be raining. Could be
snowing. I’d pick kids up in a truck and if it was raining, I had a canvas
clear over the top. One of my company trucks. Put straw on the bottom. I’d
pick kids up at three different Sunday Schools and we would go out, sometimes as
far as 25-30 miles away, down in the hills. And I taught a lot of them to ride
horseback. I’d take them up to where I had a couple of horses up on the River
Road. And we really were scouting. We really did a lot. I’m talking about,
every kid had to prepare his own bed, his own lunch. Now…
Skilken: Every kid had to prepare his own lunch and rarely did we get back
before 6:00 in the evening, depending on where we went.
Voice: Well how did you get involved with the Federation, how long ago?
Skilken: Well it goes back to the, I think I got involved with the Federation
through Heritage House. When they bought the people’s house on Woodland, I
got, we were doing nothing big work at that time and all union so I got a little
sub- contract, I got a little contract there. I think the whole job was $7800 or
$8000 in remodeling it. And my father had come up from Florida and was living
with us. But he was sad and lonesome, all by himself. Man kept strictly kosher.
And all of a sudden he says to me, he says, “I’m going into Heritage
House.” I said, “What do you mean?”
Skilken: He said, “I’m going in there.” And I said, “What’s
the matter, aren’t you happy here?”
Voice: Don’t you like it here?
Skilken: “No.” Very, very lonesome. We’d go out to dinner. Fan and
I always did a lot of entertaining. We had guests in, you know. And he’d go
upstairs. He’d go to bed and just lie around. So we called Abe. And this was
soon after it was opened on Woodland Avenue.
Voice: Abe Wolman?
Skilken: Abe Wolman. Abe Wolman. And I’ll tell you about Abe Wolman…
Voice: Wolman was another…
Skilken: Yeah, we’ll get back to that. Like I say, every time you bring
something new, it brings another memory up, see. And we had 14 people there and
he joined when there was only six or seven. He went into there, ten weeks. And
we soon had a house full of 14. We had a couple that did the cooking. They were
refugees. They did the cooking.
Voice: Mrs. Steinmart.
Voice: Mrs. Steinmart.
Skilken: Was that the name?
Voice: Uh huh.
Skilken: I don’t remember the name. And he was happy there. He had somebody
to talk to. Everybody talked in Yiddish there, you see. And I mean, Yiddish was
their…If you couldn’t talk Yiddish when you went in there, don’t go
in there, you see, in the original house. And then, I think it was about that
time, before that. It was in the, oh I know when it was, when I first got
started. Ed Schanfarber, you asked me a question when I first got started. I met
Ed Schanfarber at the old Schonthal Center and he at that time was head of the,
whatever you called it at that time, the Federation, the Columbus Jewish
Voice: What was it called then?
Voice: United Jewish Fund.
Skilken: United Jewish Fund back in the 40s?
Skilken: Yeah, okay. So Ed and I were pretty close friends. Brilliant man. I
mean the community lost a, really a gem. when they lost Ed.
Voice: Died of a heartbreak.
Voice: I’d say he died of a heartbreak.
Skilken: 58 years old when he passed away. (Mixed voices) And he said,
“Morris,” he says, “I want you on my committee to,” he said,
“you know a lot of people. I want you on my committee.” That’s how I
got started in 1944.
Voice: I was one of those who organized the Women’s Division.
Skilken: It was 1944 though, how I got. Been very active since.
Voice: . . . . 1944 when we had the bond rally.
Voice: That’s how I got involved. That’s how I got involved with the
Federation, with the United Jewish Fund. They chose me as President of B’nai B’rith
Women to organize the Women’s Division.
Voice: You were the first President . . . .
Voice: No, no, Mrs. Kobacker.
Skilken: Talking about that, Jule Mark and I were the first two men…
Skilken: Jule Mark and I were the first two men, fantastic person, Jule Mark
and I, I’m repeating that, were the first two men who became members of the
Ladies Auxiliary. Remember when they started to take men in? Uh huh. Because…
Voice: Morris, let’s get to the building of Heritage House…
Voice: and what you know. You took the contract for the building of the first
floor. I’ll never forget how proud you were when we walked in that front
entrance, that on the ceiling you had wallpaper around the room like a frieze,
that had menorahs and everything on and you had picked that out someplace and
you had put that up there and and anybody who walked in, “Take a look at
that.” You were so thrilled and so proud what that thing implied. The
Jewish . . . . very unusual. It was done in gold and yellow.
Skilken: I do remember.
Voice: I always wondered whatever happened to that thing.
Skilken: I’ll tell you, talking, getting back to Heritage House we, within
60 days’ time, Aaron Zacks was appointed Chairman . . . .
Voice: Of the Campaign.
Skilken: of the Campaign.
Voice: Right, correct.
Voice: Aaron Zacks, Bob Weiler, Sr. and Abe Wolman.
Voice: Abe Wolman helped.
Skilken: Yeah. Okay. Now we want to design the thing. In 60 says’ time, I
run a cost and estimate on approximately what we wanted on a cubic foot basis,
on a square foot basis and I said, “Well, it’s going to cost somewhere
between $700- and $800,000.” Within 60 days’ time, we raised $800,000. Sixty
days. That’s all. Now then you have to decide. Everybody paid for their own
trip wherever they went. You paid for your own trips.
Voice: To go look at other homes.
Skilken: So what’s his name, the architect?
Voice: Yeah Mark Feinknopf.
Skilken: Mark Feinknopf didn’t know a damn thing about this type of
construction. He worked downtown remodeling and building store fronts and . . .
. like that. And did a really fine job of it. But he didn’t know a thing about
this type of construction. I think I was two, they took bids. I think I was a
couple of thousand dollars low or higher. I said, “I want to build it. I’ll
take it for a thousand dollars under the low bidder so legitimately I’m low
bidder and I’ll go on with it.” Who was the fella’ who had the, what
was his name who had the tire…
Skilken: No, no, I’m talking about who had the…
Voice: Oh, Abel?
Voice: Yeah, Dick Abel.
Skilken: Dick Abel had a plane at that time, an old plane that would hold, I
think there were six of us…
Voice: He had a corporate plane…corporation, yeah.
Skilken: Six or seven of us, yeah.
Voice: By the way, that’s the father of the girl who’s working for you.
Voice: Betty, yeah.
Skilken: Six or seven of us and we went over to New York to look at, they had
just added a hundred rooms onto a center, I mean onto a Jewish home for the
aged. It had 50 rooms or 60 rooms or something like that. Anyway they had added
a new addition. And I saw so many mistakes in that addition. Then I went to
Norfolk, Virginia where they had just built a new one. And I went to Chicago
where they’d just built a new one. And I came back and told Mark what the hell
to do. See? In fact, I designed it, see?
Voice: Maybe that’s why he was in so much trouble with the Resler end. He
was in plenty of trouble with that too.
Skilken: Well I straightened him up on the Resler one. I don’t want to get
Skilken: I don’t want to talk about it because I’d be bragging about
Voice: I’m going to tell everyone that they should realize that the present
way we are situated, including the three floors which we are enjoying now, of
course it includes the Skilken wing, the whole Phase II, and God willing you
should be around for Phase III with me, is all, whatever we have accomplished
there we know would never have gotten done when it got done or gotten under the
prices that you got if it hadn’t been for you, Morris. You were the one who
made all this possible and the builders, the contractors and everybody keeps
saying, “I don’t know how Morris does it. But he’s the one that can get
anything we want.” If they needed boilers or some other equipment that had
to come in and they said they couldn’t have them for three-four months, he
said, “I’m going to have them here in 30 days.” And you had it there
in 30 days and it got built. And that’s the reason why it’s only a year and
two months since we broke ground. Not even a year and two months, about a year
that we have added this new Second Phase and wait ’till you people all see it.
You’re going to be overwhelmed. And the Third Phase, God willing you should be
around to continue what you’re doing Morris.
Skilken: Thank you. Anyway my brother and I, a double room cost $10,000, and
my brother and I…We were not in business at that time. We broke up in
Voice: Is that when you broke up, ’47? It was a long time ago.
Skilken: ’47. We broke up in ’47. And I’ll never forget the look on Mark
Feinknop’s face when we were under construction. Only a construction person
would have to appreciate this. Our doors are 3’4″ or 3’6″ wide by
7′ high, inch and three quarters solid. Absolutely solid. He had those doors
hanging on what we call the trim. Trim…trim. Nailed into concrete block.
I knew damn well that I couldn’t blame the architect. Morris Skilken was the
contractor. He should have known better. One morning I was coming off of the
south wing and I met Mark as he was coming in where the existing nurses’
center is. And he stopped and his eyes bugged open. I says, “Hi Mark,”
and I kept on going. Now why was his eyes bugged open and his mouth dropped? We
used what we called a “rough buck” to hang the doors on. In other
words, a rough buck. In this instance, our dividing walls for the hallway were
out of concrete block. So we built a frame out of 2X8’s. This is called a
rough buck out of 2X8’s and then we anchor that frame with metal anchors back
into the concrete block walls. Now when you hang your doors in, you put on your
frame, I mean your finish frame, is nailed onto this rough buck and you use long
screws then for your hinges so it goes through your finish frame and into this
rough buck. That’s only change number one that I made. How could I ask
Heritage House for an . . . . At the end of that place, I had to go down eight
feet to get down to good ground, solid ground and then bring the foundation up.
How could I ask Heritage House for a change order, which is legitimate. It’s
not in accordance with the Plans and Specifications. The first section of
Heritage House cost me my profit, just $15,000 that I took…
Voice: Besides what you gave?
Skilken: that I took, yeah, besides what I gave, besides what Joe and I gave
and that, this . . . . just leave that out. Please leave that out. Don’t put
that in there. I don’t…
Voice: I think it’s wonderful.
Voice: I do too.
Skilken: Now you’re talking about, let’s talk about Phase II. Let’s talk
about Phase I. I made 23 changes to Plans and Specifications. And remember when
what’s-his- name, he had a beard…
Skilken: Jack Resler used to call him “Rabbi.”
Voice: He was from Mark Feinknopf’s office.
Skilken: Yeah and he’s still a partner there. I mean he accepted every
Voice: Is this on the current building program?
Voice: You mean the Resler building?
Skilken: That’s the Resler building.
Voice: Well Milt Staub was the Building Chairman.
Voice: But you used to come to the meetings, remember?
Voice: He did spend 24 hours a day on that building.
Skilken: I didn’t want to be chairman.
Skilken: So we come along and one of the changes was this. The back was a dump
and it was all built, and I can remember it when we used to, I learned to swim
in what we called “three lakes”, three lakes down on Alum Creek. And
that’s where I learned to swim when I was 6-7 years old.
Voice: He was a champion swimmer.
Skilken: Yeah. And I can remember it was a dump at that time. So we’re
talking about 80 years ago. They had it designed for pilings and they had made,
I had asked them to have test soil bearings, test soil borings made. I look at
it, and here’s where your sub-plot engineer comes in. I says, “Nope, you
got to change this.”
Voice: It was a dump.
Skilken: It was a dump.
Voice: Bexley dump.
Voice: Bexley dump, yeah.
Skilken: And I says, “Now this is old,” how many years was it
since we built the Resler wing?
Voice: About 1972, ’71.
Skilken: l972, ’71. Which was, let’s see…
Voice: About 16 years ago.
Skilken: Anyway, whenever it was.
Skilken: And I said, “Nope,” and I went back to the office. At that
time I had some architects working ’cause we were doing a lot of bill design
work, and redesigned it, excavated down to, listen to this, just a moment, then
you can talk, excavated all of this out. Eliminated down to solid ground,
eliminated the piling entirely and we will build walls in here and have all of
our plumbing done for another floor. I says, “And while we’re at it, we’re
going to design the footings large enough, heavy enough to put a third floor
Voice: Support a third floor?
Voice: Let me…when Morris came in with this idea of
supporting the third floor with the pilasters, I remember the term because I’m
not a construction person and we realized it would cost naother $17 or $18,000
Skilken: …thousand dollars.
Voice: Well that was, you said around $18- at that time. I don’t know what
it finally cost. And Jack Resler said, “We’re going to do it.” And I
said, “We can’t raise any more money.” And he said, “Damn it.
if we’re going to do it, we’re going to do it right.” Remember? And
Jack said, “I’d go along. If you can’t raise it. I’ll give you the
money and we’re going to make that strong enough.” So a third floor went
on and I…
Voice: …exactly four years after the Resler Wing was completed, 50
rooms, we needed fifty more rooms. and we had the 50 rooms ready down there. We
had all the . . . . in, you see? All we had to do was put in the petitions and
we did it for half of what it would have cost. And then, this was where the
Skilken Wing come in then . . . built that third floor with. You know, I still
feel embarrassed when people refer to it as the Skilken Wing.
Voice: I think you’re entitled to it with all the work you’ve done and
Skilken: Now we had the…the Torahs…when we moved out of the
old house on Woodland, we took the Torahs over to the Center and that was really
a beautiful affair.
Voice: That’s right.
Skilken: And Sam Schlonsky led the way with the first Torah and I don’t know
who carried the other ones.
Voice: You carried one of them.
Voice: We’re going to have another ceremony in another year and a half.
Voice: Morris, how long do you think it’s going to take for us to get the
30 spaces filled?
Skilken: A year, maybe less.
Skilken: No, no. Oh, no, no, no, no. I’ve already told them not later than
June the first, you see?
Voice: Are we going to have 50 or 100 more rooms?
Skilken: A hundred.
Voice: You sure?
Skilken: A hundred more rooms.
Voice: ‘Cause 50 rooms for very ill Alzheimer’s and totally-ill people
will be in that area who have no other place to go. And we’re going to have a
lovely synagogue in another section.
Voice: It’s going to be much prettier than what we have now.
Mixed voices and a slight blank spot on tape.
Skilken: Let’s talk about Phase Interviewer. A year ago the architects sent
over what we call a line drawing and they were laying on Nick Boslovick’s
drawing table and I went in to look them over. And I’m looking and I’m
looking and all of a sudden I says, “What the hell is this?” The
dimensions weren’t on so I took a scale and there was a room 6400 square feet
for staff dining. Finally he helped me figure out three shifts, what we’re
going to need for staff ’cause there’s three shifts for 250 rooms. We’ve
got 150 rooms now, for 250 rooms. And I added another 50 in case we put on
another 50 rooms, another story. And I come up with 1800 square feet.
Skilken: Huh? That’s all we needed. So I said, “Okay Nick, let’s go
to work.” The architects were told, “Give the staff anything that they
want.” They don’t have any idea the size of a room. So they said,
“Well no we need this much room, this much room.” Nick and I went for
eight straight hours. There was 216,000 square feet that the architects had and
we knocked off 66,000 square feet.
Voice: And it’s still huge.
Skilken: Now, and I says, “Okay Nick.” Called the architect into the
office. Now we’re going to give the staff everything that they wanted with
this 66,000 square feet knocked off. We made an appointment with Jerry and Bill
Bloom and the whole staff. And I said, “Nick, I don’t want to be there
because I’m liable to lose my temper at some of the staff members. Here take a
ball of twine with you and some blue chalk and I’ll have Dell Hume clean out
space in the,” what do you call it where we teach people things?
Voice: In the O.T. Room.
Skilken: Yeah, Occupational Therapy … “Strike a line.” We cut
all the rooms down in size to where they were supposed to be. Had enough
meeting. Supposed to meet at 9:00. I figured it was going to talk all day and
maybe another half a day. Nick walks into the office at a quarter after 12. I
said, “What the hell you doing here Nick?” He says, “We’re all
done.” “What do you mean ‘you’re all done’?” He said,
“We satisfied the staff on the size of the rooms that you put up for
them.” Saved two and a half million dollars! Heritage House wouldn’t be
being built now if we’d have had another two and a half million dollars on
Voice: We’ll add to this another day.
Voice: All right.
Tape clicks off and on.
Voice: Everybody on that ward, you have never seen more dedicated people, men
and women, that you’ll find on that Heritage House ward. In fact, I think
other . . . . agencies are jealous of what we do and what we accomplish.
Voice: All the agencies are jealous of our ward. Our ward is the most
dedicated, once they get on the ward, they become so involved. . . . . himself
is the leader. He has the knack in a very quiet and very sophisticated way of
commanding respect and dedication from the people he works with. And I think
this is the answer. He has that same knack with his staff. When you find a place
like this that has staff that stays 16, 20, 14 years constantly, he brings them
up through the ranks. He takes a little girl and he ends up with her being a
real asset in a very fine position. He has a way of very quietly getting the
best out of you. He does the same thing with the Board. And this is the whole, I
think this is the whole, it’s a matter of loyalty and of sincere respect for
what they can do and what they accomplish. And the staff has that same atti—.
I was with a woman as I was walking out today who’s taking care of my aunt.
She’s a new girl who came to work for her, Mrs. Margulies. And she said,
“And they’re complaining about this and they’re complaining about that
and,” she said, “without me saying a word” . . . . And Ruthie’s
sitting there and you know what I’m talking about. And she said, “I have
worked for 34 years in the nursing business. I have never been in a place as
wonderful as this is. And as wonderful as they are to staff.” Now she said,
“They respect you, they say ‘Hello’ to you. You’re not an underling
and,” she said, “they make everything of the finest available to you
and it’s a joy to work here.”
Voice: How many women are members of the auxiliary?
Voice: Auxiliary? About 1400.
Voice: I don’t know any more. I’m not involved like I was.
Voice: . . . . it’s really a nursing home. The way we do it is like we call
it the Tower and we have what we call the special needs unit. (Mixed voices)…
the Manor and the day care program. And wait ’till you see the size of our
day care area. Now that will be a non-segregated area. The other thing’s all
Jewish but the other agencies are for everybody and I’m going to tell you
something. The next project, and it’s in the works, once we get through with
this. I can’t push this back too much. Our next project is to have a place
like Heritage Tower, only for people who can afford it. You’ve gone through
that. This is how you do it. You have different levels of care and that’s…
Voice: And my further question is, and this is a long-range thing, how do you
begin in middle life, let’s say, to teach people to prepare or to be
Voice: I’m at the age now where I’m concerned…to keep my
independence. I don’t want to be a burden to my daughter.
Voice: Oh, our generation is that way.
Voice: I figure there must be things we can do to prepare people.
Voice: Well I’m going to tell you something…
Tarshish:: I had one friend who’s at Heritage House. I won’t mention any
names…But she has always been a leaner all of her life. And when she got
to, she’s younger than I am, and when she got to the point of her children
being away, she just fell apart, and so that was the easy solution. Her children
don’t have to worry about her…
Voice: Well you know something Mildred, there are many kinds of people in the
Tarshish:: I know.
Voice: And you can’t prepare for any one…’cause there are
Voice: But I’m going to tell you someting. It’s what you do with your
life and I’m finding that most of us in our age group are really independent.
Our group that grew up, it will be much longer from now, it will be when we’re
in our late 80s that we’re going to find ourselves needing…
Voice: That’s a different group and I hope that one of these days they’ll
find an answer to it.
Voice: …are meetings for these things. If we could get the
participation of the people so that they could become acquainted with how to
take care of themselves and how to be independent and how…don’t have
to worry. You know why?
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Transcribed by Honey Abramson